Expectations Can Lead to Disappointment

Have you ever seen someone who appears to be quite normal, but underneath you know that they are lost? I’m sure we all know at least a few people like that.

It’s sometimes difficult to reach these people because of the way they react to constructive criticism. While we’re trying to help them they put up a wall and shut down. Instead of letting us help them they become agitated and disagree with us that they need help. We’re left feeling helpless. We love the person we’re trying to help but we can’t do a thing about the demons that control him or her.

Other times the person will listen to what we’re saying but a few weeks or months later the significance of our lecture appears as if it went in one ear and out the other.

People with deep-rooted problems can very rarely identify their actions as a problem. While we can see it as plain as day they’re in an entirely different world. That’s why they don’t accept our hands when we offer our help.

What do you do?

We’re all different so no two answers will be the same. When it comes right down to it we really can’t control anything but our own lives. We need to make good decisions, identify problems and try to work on the things we need to work on to help us become more successful in all areas of life, from our relationships to our jobs to our behavior.

Sometimes our example will lead others to follow. This is a case where being a leader is better than being a follower. Our actions could motivate our loved ones, people we work with every day, or even someone we don’t know. Our influence can travel far and wide if we live what some term “a good life.”

Lately it seems like the walls have slowly been closing in around me. No matter what I’ve done it seems it hasn’t been the right thing. In the end I’m the only one who can judge what is right and wrong for myself. As other people act and react, so do I. I’ve learned that we can never truly understand another person’s actions. If we try to make sense out of their reactions we set ourselves up to be disappointed and hurt. It’s kind of like holding a door open for someone. Most of us expect the other person to say, “Thank You.” However, if they don’t, we consider them rude. We do this because of what we expect. The person didn’t meet our expectations so that person should be held accountable.

Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way. Sometimes people are in a hurry so they scurry through the door without thinking. They might have kids in tow and be so overwhelmed that they simply forgot to say thank you.  It’s impossible to know what another person is thinking. At times it should be obvious, but even then it’s still impossible to know.

The next time you find yourself in a situation when someone doesn’t live up to your expectations try to determine why they failed. Sometimes we have to look into our inner being to figure it all out. The answer might be at the surface or it might be deep within our souls.

Our journey through life will be filled with bumps and bruises. What makes us who we are is how we react to these things. Do we let them control us or do we take control of them so the same feelings don’t consistently resurface?

If we don’t learn from every action and reaction we will never grow. Take the positive from what you see as a negative situation and learn from it. Try to understand how the circumstances behind every reaction can be vastly different between people…………………that’s the beauty of life……….we all have different fingerprints and we are all different people…………

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